I have long thought that one of the great days of a kind of spiritual liberation for me was when, as a young teacher, I told a classroom of kids, “I don’t know.” It was great to discover I didn’t have to know, and didn’t have to try & find out everything…and in this, I became more of a student, and in the way it works, more of a teacher.
Here’s a holiday essay by Megan Edge about this – let me know what you think!
Recently I have been in the energy of “I Don’t Know.” It’s a very interesting energy – at the same time both scary and liberating. Not Knowing has me feeling a bit like a boat without a rudder, as though I’m floating along without a firm plan.
The good thing about being in the Energy of Not Knowing is the ability to go with the flow. When there is no firm plan, I find it much easier to adjust to whatever comes my way, with no hooks into how something should be, in my own expectation of it.
Many of the people who come to see me are in this energy; they don’t Know something and so they come to me for clarity, solutions and answers. It might be “I don’t know what to do with my life.” Or “I don’t know how she feels about me.” Or “I don’t know if I should make that move or take that job offer.”
More often then not I will suggest they reframe their question into “I’d like to know what to do with my life.” Or “I’d like to know if she likes me or I should move or take that job.” By changing the way in which they ask the question they instantly change the way the information can come to them. By saying “I’d like to Know” they are letting the Universe know they are ready to hear the answers and to take guided action on those answers.
However, we aren’t always ready to hear the answers or do what is required of us to make those solutions become reality. So we sit in the energy of “I don’t know.”
What I am realizing, beyond the need to not judge ourselves harshly for Not Knowing something, is that “I don’t know” can be a very powerful place to be. There can be liberation in truthfully stating that we do not have all the answers and solutions just yet.
Sometimes being in the Not Knowing opens up space around us for many more possibilities to show up in our life then we would have seen in our conviction of Knowing.
What if you could get excited about Not Knowing – instead of feeling anxious or dumb or uncertain? What if there could be space in the Not Knowing to simply allow yourself to shrug your shoulders and say, “In this moment, I don’t know what is going to happen next! I don’t know if she likes me, I don’t know what I should do with my life and I don’t know if I should move or take that job.”
This acknowledgement could open up a world of possibilities and ways of thinking that have never occurred to you before this moment.
The need to Know reflects a need to be in control, which in and of itself is an Illusion – being in Control is not possible; being Responsible and Accountable is possible, but not being in Control. You release the Illusion of being in Control when you say “I don’t know” and allow this to be a good thing.
The need to Know also reflects a desire to orchestrate the Future. The Future is a nebulous place, hard to pin down in any moment and always in motion and flux.
We can certainly be Responsible and Accountable for the plans we make for the Future and we can affect our experience of the Future through our intention but we cannot control the Future. There are far to many variables. The point is to flow into and out of and around our experiences – not to control them.
This Holiday Season I encourage you to Not Know a few things, such as how someone else is going to behave or how Christmas dinner is going to turn out, or what gift you might receive. Allow your life to reveal itself to you as the best gift you can give to yourself and enjoy the possibilities that are presented.
I don’t Know what will happen when you do this but I think it could be good!
Happy Holidays and Best Wishes for 2015!
On her website, Megan says: “I have always had an interest in the Metaphysical. As a child I constantly questioned the world around me, seeking answers that made sense to me. I considered my ‘Big Book of Fairy Tales’ to be my first textbook on the subject of the Metaphysical and Supernatural.
“As a child I would pore over the detailed and intricate pictures, always delighting in finding the hidden fairies and other woodland folks within its pages. This early fascination provided me with a sense of there being something more in the world around me.”
You can find out more about Megan Edge at http://www.psy-chick.net/.